This post is going to be a bit "gruff", but I really think it needs to be put out there.
First, please know that I in NO way want this blog to be a place where TPS is being slammed, my hope is that it becomes a source of information for those involved with TPS, whether they are a parent, a teacher, an administrator or someone outside looking for info about TPS.
That being said I'm hearing through my "sources" that several people received phone calls this week, myself included, that they have been waiting for since this school year began. It makes me feel better, but I also feel like I've been given a band aid. I can't help but wonder what has taken so long for these phone calls to be made and why it would take someone mentioning taking legal measures or pulling their child out of TPS for action to be taken? I'm glad my blog might be getting read by people who have this kind of "pull" but it saddens me too.
I understand that our school system is in "trouble". If you go over to Toledo Talk you'll find a story about some of the "injustices" going on in our schools, and people debating why this is happening. There are alot of good points in that thread and I highly reccomend that you go check it out!
But it comes down to every parent, teacher and administrator working for these children. I've seen children who are pushed aside, not only by their peers, but by teachers also, for simply being "undesirable" or too much of a handful. It is those children who need the extra help. But NO child, or their families, should have to fight for what legally belongs to them! It's time for our schools to step up to the plate and do their jobs. It's not just the teachers, it is the EINTIRE administration.
The discord that is going on in TPS right now is RIDICULOUS! If it's not the board members arguing at board meetings it's people who once held a "position" in a school telling parents they need to do things that will hurt the entire district simply to draw attention to their specific school.
Look at the entire NW Ohio area right now. How many large employers are shutting the doors and closing up shop? What will losing those jobs do, not only to the community, but to the schools? Maumee alone is talking about possibly losing more than $300,000 because of losing students because of Ford closing. Yes, I know they are not TPS, but why do you think TPS is doing so poorly? Look at how badly the entire area has been going down hill the past few years. Crime rates are high, unemployment is up and the inner city areas are getting worse and worse.
TPS is getting worse because the entire area is getting worse. No one looks out for anyone but themselves anymore. What happened to helping each other out? What happened to the old saying "Love they brother as you would love yourself"? I think this time of year more than any other brings out the worst in everyone because of the slam politics that we see on our tv's on a regular basis. Everyone is so worried about pointing out the bad that the other person is doing when in fact they're doing even worse things, it's just that no one has pointed them out yet.
I think the entire TPS administration, from Mr. Foley down, needs to step back and look at the past few years from our eyes, as parents with children who are going through this. Why do you think we are so angry and unhappy? It's easy, you do not communicate with us or each other. You do nothing but bicker and fight amongst yourselves, yet you expect us to be happy about it? I don't think so! I can guarantee that not ONE of you would be happy if you were having to go through what we are having to go through! You put these commercials on the tv about what a great school TPS is, yet when the news comes on we see clips of you arguing and acting like immature children at a board meeting and making the entire district look like it's being ran by idiots! JUST STOP PLEASE!!! If you want us to trust you with our childrens educations and treat you with respect, you need to first start working together and treating each other with respect. No one will ever always agree with each other, but every one in this world needs to respect that fact that everyone is entitled to their own opinion even if it isn't the same as your own. We don't need "three for change", we need "five for the kids"!!!
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Thursday, September 21, 2006
Monday, September 18, 2006
A bit disappointed
OK, so we're into what, the 4th week of school now? Although school has gone along smoothly with really no complaints, I'm seeing no follow through at all from the meeting at the end of the school year last year with the SAT team at my eldest childs school. I have left 2 messages at the school personally for the head of the SAT team, as well as one phone message and have yet to receive a reply to any of my messages even acknowledging that they were at least received. I'm going to try one more time tomorrow personally going into the school, if I get no results from that by the beginning of next week then I see where I have no other result but to contact the attorney we talked to at the end of the year last year who asked us to get back in touch with them if this exact situation happened. I do understand that the first few weeks of school are a bit hectic for every staff member, but I was assured at the meeting in May that I WOULD be contacted no later than the 2nd week of school by the SAT team. Wish me luck!
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Tuesday, September 12, 2006
Schools and 9/11
I'm just curious as to what everyones opinions are on this topic. I do understand that 9/11 is an important day in US history and that it will be talked about just as we talk about the World Wars, Viet Nam etc.
My reasoning for this topic is in my eldest childs middle school yesterday they kept bringing the happenings of 9/11 up. It wasn't done in a class room setting to "study" it, it apparently kept coming over the PA system. They were reading off quotes from fire fighters and other people involved in the attacks.
Now, I can understand talking about this in a class room, you have your peers around you and you can discuss the feelings you are having, but to keep coming across the PA system doing what they did, I don't feel it was appropriate. My eldest had a really hard time with 9/11, and still does, and the announcements they kept coming across with really stressed them out yesterday to the point that they simply couldn't function in class any longer and I was called to take them home.
Yes, I will admit that this child is a sensitive child, especially compared to other kids in the same age range. I think the problem was simply that the announcements were bringing up feelings and emotions that had no place for an outlet. I know that it's not the schools problem to deal with my childs emotional baggage, but I sure do wish they would have been able to have discussed this in class rather than doing it the way they did it.
I personally did not watch any news yesterday because I knew how much coverage would be given to the 9/11 anniversary and I just didn't feel like feeling the way I knew it would make me feel.
Anyway, am I wrong for feeling this way or does someone out there also feel that it should have been done differently?
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My reasoning for this topic is in my eldest childs middle school yesterday they kept bringing the happenings of 9/11 up. It wasn't done in a class room setting to "study" it, it apparently kept coming over the PA system. They were reading off quotes from fire fighters and other people involved in the attacks.
Now, I can understand talking about this in a class room, you have your peers around you and you can discuss the feelings you are having, but to keep coming across the PA system doing what they did, I don't feel it was appropriate. My eldest had a really hard time with 9/11, and still does, and the announcements they kept coming across with really stressed them out yesterday to the point that they simply couldn't function in class any longer and I was called to take them home.
Yes, I will admit that this child is a sensitive child, especially compared to other kids in the same age range. I think the problem was simply that the announcements were bringing up feelings and emotions that had no place for an outlet. I know that it's not the schools problem to deal with my childs emotional baggage, but I sure do wish they would have been able to have discussed this in class rather than doing it the way they did it.
I personally did not watch any news yesterday because I knew how much coverage would be given to the 9/11 anniversary and I just didn't feel like feeling the way I knew it would make me feel.
Anyway, am I wrong for feeling this way or does someone out there also feel that it should have been done differently?
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Tuesday, September 05, 2006
My Apologies!!
I just want to apologize for not posting last week. As I'm sure all of you that have kids in school know, it was a CRAZY week getting them back into school and school habits on top of getting myself ready for work and still taking care of everything that needed to be taken care of. On top of that we have our family reunion on Labor Day so I was busy helping with that too. This week is looking to still be busy, but not as crazy so hopefully I can post something a bit more!
I hope that everyone's first week back at TPS went well. Ours was quite good for a change, so I'm hoping it will continue to go as well. I seen alot of consitency in my oldests school over the uniform issues when I was called one morning because a belt was forgotten. As I was waiting for my child to come and get their belt the office was in a frenzy calling other parents over uniform violations and other parents were popping in to correct said violations. As long as they stay consistant with enforcing the uniforms I will not complain, but will instead back them on it. My main problem is that one kid can get away with something, but another kid can't, and I'm not even referring to my child because I have taught them that even though we personally do not care for the uniform code, it is one of those rules in life that we have to live by.
So, I guess that means that I will stop complaining about the uniforms. I may not like them, but I do admit that they make getting ready in the mornings MUCH easier!
Gotta head out and get to work, have a great day all!
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I hope that everyone's first week back at TPS went well. Ours was quite good for a change, so I'm hoping it will continue to go as well. I seen alot of consitency in my oldests school over the uniform issues when I was called one morning because a belt was forgotten. As I was waiting for my child to come and get their belt the office was in a frenzy calling other parents over uniform violations and other parents were popping in to correct said violations. As long as they stay consistant with enforcing the uniforms I will not complain, but will instead back them on it. My main problem is that one kid can get away with something, but another kid can't, and I'm not even referring to my child because I have taught them that even though we personally do not care for the uniform code, it is one of those rules in life that we have to live by.
So, I guess that means that I will stop complaining about the uniforms. I may not like them, but I do admit that they make getting ready in the mornings MUCH easier!
Gotta head out and get to work, have a great day all!
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Tuesday, August 29, 2006
First Day Thoughts...
OK, today was the kids' first day back to school. I'd be lying if I said I wasn't a bit nervous for both of them, especially my oldest one. Last year was the year from heck for this kid and I am very nervous that last year won't be left in the past, but upon picking them up from school I was informed that it was a good day, followed by a smile!
My youngest also announced that today was awesome, just short, which brings up my first question for this post. Why is it that the older kids had a full day of school today, but the elementary kids only had a half day? Aren't some of the elementary kids watched by their elder siblings after school? If so, wouldn't it have been better for either the older kids to have had a half day or the elementary kids to have had a full day? Just seems kind of odd to me.
My second thought/question refers back to an article at Toledo Talk from August 26th, you can read the article and peoples comments HERE
The article talks about the consistency of enforcing uniforms in the schools. I don't know about the rest of you but over the past 2 weeks or so I've had a minimum of 15 pre-recorded messages from the vice principal of my oldest child's school reminding me about the things that were going on and in EVERY message was a reminder about the dress code and a notice that all kids must be in uniform INCLUDING black or brown dress shoes, that no tennis shoes were allowed. As I sat this afternoon waiting for my middle schooler to come out of the school I watched the other kids, specifically how they were dressed. I got a bit of an attitude as I seen better than 50% of the kids come out of the school in white or other colored tennis shoes, as well as collarless shirts and shirts that were untucked. I seen the same thing last year, and I am fairly sure that it will continue through the entire year just as it did last year. As the article at Toledo Talk states, there simply is no consistency for the uniform code. One child can wear something that isn't acceptable and get away with it, but another child can wear the same thing and not get away with it.
In case you're wondering, I am not a parent that feels my kids should push the uniform code to see what they can get away with, I make them both adhere to it, simply because it's a rule, and even though I don't like the rule and they don't like the rule, it is there for a reason and the right thing to do is follow it as it is written. But it does bother me that I went to the expense to purchase the things that my kids were told they had to have, even if it meant buying doubles, while other kids go about doing what they want to simply because they or their parents don't give a hoot about the rules.
So, how did everyone else's first day go?
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My youngest also announced that today was awesome, just short, which brings up my first question for this post. Why is it that the older kids had a full day of school today, but the elementary kids only had a half day? Aren't some of the elementary kids watched by their elder siblings after school? If so, wouldn't it have been better for either the older kids to have had a half day or the elementary kids to have had a full day? Just seems kind of odd to me.
My second thought/question refers back to an article at Toledo Talk from August 26th, you can read the article and peoples comments HERE
The article talks about the consistency of enforcing uniforms in the schools. I don't know about the rest of you but over the past 2 weeks or so I've had a minimum of 15 pre-recorded messages from the vice principal of my oldest child's school reminding me about the things that were going on and in EVERY message was a reminder about the dress code and a notice that all kids must be in uniform INCLUDING black or brown dress shoes, that no tennis shoes were allowed. As I sat this afternoon waiting for my middle schooler to come out of the school I watched the other kids, specifically how they were dressed. I got a bit of an attitude as I seen better than 50% of the kids come out of the school in white or other colored tennis shoes, as well as collarless shirts and shirts that were untucked. I seen the same thing last year, and I am fairly sure that it will continue through the entire year just as it did last year. As the article at Toledo Talk states, there simply is no consistency for the uniform code. One child can wear something that isn't acceptable and get away with it, but another child can wear the same thing and not get away with it.
In case you're wondering, I am not a parent that feels my kids should push the uniform code to see what they can get away with, I make them both adhere to it, simply because it's a rule, and even though I don't like the rule and they don't like the rule, it is there for a reason and the right thing to do is follow it as it is written. But it does bother me that I went to the expense to purchase the things that my kids were told they had to have, even if it meant buying doubles, while other kids go about doing what they want to simply because they or their parents don't give a hoot about the rules.
So, how did everyone else's first day go?
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Sunday, August 27, 2006
13 ABC Bridges Program
Although I am a news junkie, I'm totally unfamiliar with this program, but I happened to catch it today and it was quite interesting.
Today it was hosted by a woman by the name of Doni Miller. The show was directed at the group of concerned parents that are asking students to boycott school at Scott High School the first five days of school as well as important days that attendance is taken for determining the amount of state funding the schools get.
The first half of the show Ms. Miller was talking to John Foley. Mr. Foley was explaining that he does understand where these parents are coming from but that for students to purposely miss school on the days they are being asked to miss will only serve to hurt the school district.
The second half of the show Ms. Miller was talking to a man by the name of Francis Dumbuya who, from what I understand, is leading the group of people asking for the boycott. Mr. Dumbuya was explaining his feelings about why this boycott is necessary and went on to explain that there are more than 6,000 days of school missed by students because of suspensions and B.I.C. days.
Now, I am in no way trying to undermine the reason for this show, but when I heard how many days are being missed because of students being suspended in/out of school I was just blown away! It just makes no sense to me that that amount of days is even possible! I know we're a fairly large sized school district, but that is ALOT of suspensions!
Anyway, I just thought I'd touch base about this show. I'm sure that it's not always about TPS, but you can be assured that I will be tuning into this show weekly! It airs on 13 ABC at 12 noon. Check it out if you can!
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Today it was hosted by a woman by the name of Doni Miller. The show was directed at the group of concerned parents that are asking students to boycott school at Scott High School the first five days of school as well as important days that attendance is taken for determining the amount of state funding the schools get.
The first half of the show Ms. Miller was talking to John Foley. Mr. Foley was explaining that he does understand where these parents are coming from but that for students to purposely miss school on the days they are being asked to miss will only serve to hurt the school district.
The second half of the show Ms. Miller was talking to a man by the name of Francis Dumbuya who, from what I understand, is leading the group of people asking for the boycott. Mr. Dumbuya was explaining his feelings about why this boycott is necessary and went on to explain that there are more than 6,000 days of school missed by students because of suspensions and B.I.C. days.
Now, I am in no way trying to undermine the reason for this show, but when I heard how many days are being missed because of students being suspended in/out of school I was just blown away! It just makes no sense to me that that amount of days is even possible! I know we're a fairly large sized school district, but that is ALOT of suspensions!
Anyway, I just thought I'd touch base about this show. I'm sure that it's not always about TPS, but you can be assured that I will be tuning into this show weekly! It airs on 13 ABC at 12 noon. Check it out if you can!
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Monday, August 21, 2006
What are your thoughts?
In this post Continuous Improvement Lisa Renee made the comment about how she feels the way the state grades the schools is like trying to put a peg into a hole whether it fits or not. That got me to thinking about this whole testing system and the kids.
When it comes time for the kids to do the achievement testing the schools try to prepare them as well as they can. I remember when my youngest was in the 4th grade, her school had special tutoring and programs in the weeks leading up to the testing that the kids could participate in. Most of it was during school, but some of it was also afterwards. They really seemed to work with the kids to get them as ready for the tests as they could, but one thing that they stressed to the kids was that the kids didn't need to get stressed out over the testing either. After the tests were over, they had like a celebration party for the kids, just to congratulate them for a job well done.
I believe that alot of people think that there needs to be a different way of grading the schools. I think that if it were possible, the schools should be grouped together according to enrollment, if it's not already. I also feel that there should be an A, B, C, D, E rating. If you're doing continuously good, that's great, but it still doesn't make alot of sense. If our kids do better in school, do they get a grade of "continuous improvement"? No, they get a letter grade. I think it would make it a bit easier on everyone if you could just look at the school and see the letter grade. If necessary, make a side note of "continuous improvement, excellent, efficient", etc. I as a parent think this would make reading these reports alot easier.
So, tell me what you think. Am I totally clueless here, if so, let me know.
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I figured I'd lump this all into one post since this is also an opinion one. I seen on the news tonight that the board voted 3 to 2 against putting a levy on the ballot in the fall in order to give the teachers raises. I was in the middle of making dinner so I missed everything that was said, except the vote. I did see that it was the normal 3 against the normal 2. Sadly, until there are different board members, I see the board votes continuing to be those 3 against those 2. There has to be something that can be done to change this because those that are voting aren't being hurt by this, it is those things that are being voted for/against that are hurting. Do our teachers deserve raises, ABSOLUTELY!!! I honestly don't know alot about tonights meeting or the whole story about this vote, so if someone else does, please feel free to post about it or email me if you would rather remain anonymous.
Have a great night, hope everyone is enjoying these cooler temps!
Jo
When it comes time for the kids to do the achievement testing the schools try to prepare them as well as they can. I remember when my youngest was in the 4th grade, her school had special tutoring and programs in the weeks leading up to the testing that the kids could participate in. Most of it was during school, but some of it was also afterwards. They really seemed to work with the kids to get them as ready for the tests as they could, but one thing that they stressed to the kids was that the kids didn't need to get stressed out over the testing either. After the tests were over, they had like a celebration party for the kids, just to congratulate them for a job well done.
I believe that alot of people think that there needs to be a different way of grading the schools. I think that if it were possible, the schools should be grouped together according to enrollment, if it's not already. I also feel that there should be an A, B, C, D, E rating. If you're doing continuously good, that's great, but it still doesn't make alot of sense. If our kids do better in school, do they get a grade of "continuous improvement"? No, they get a letter grade. I think it would make it a bit easier on everyone if you could just look at the school and see the letter grade. If necessary, make a side note of "continuous improvement, excellent, efficient", etc. I as a parent think this would make reading these reports alot easier.
So, tell me what you think. Am I totally clueless here, if so, let me know.
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I figured I'd lump this all into one post since this is also an opinion one. I seen on the news tonight that the board voted 3 to 2 against putting a levy on the ballot in the fall in order to give the teachers raises. I was in the middle of making dinner so I missed everything that was said, except the vote. I did see that it was the normal 3 against the normal 2. Sadly, until there are different board members, I see the board votes continuing to be those 3 against those 2. There has to be something that can be done to change this because those that are voting aren't being hurt by this, it is those things that are being voted for/against that are hurting. Do our teachers deserve raises, ABSOLUTELY!!! I honestly don't know alot about tonights meeting or the whole story about this vote, so if someone else does, please feel free to post about it or email me if you would rather remain anonymous.
Have a great night, hope everyone is enjoying these cooler temps!
Jo
Tuesday, August 15, 2006
To those who come here...
I just wanted to let you know that if there is anyone who reads this and is also involved in TPS that would like to help out with this blog, feel free to contact me. My only "requirement" is that you have to either know someone I know that can "vouch" for you or you need to have a proven "track record" with another blog. I'm not necessarily looking for someone that agrees with me because maybe a different opinion would be great for this blog. I'm also not just looking for one person, the more the merrier and the more people involved with this blog, the more topics we can cover! Anyway, you can either leave me a message here on the blog or you can email me through my profile!
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Continuous Improvement
Well, I must give credit where credit is due. From what the local news is saying this morning TPS once again ranked in the "Continuous Improvement" area for the 3rd year in a row. This is great news for our schools and our kids. I do credit Dr. Sanders, but I also give alot of the credit to the teachers AND the kids! As a parent I know how stubborn my own kids can be and that once they set their mind to do something (or not doing something) there's almost no way of changing it. The teachers and staff have done alot of work with these kids to get them motivated and I think we all should thank them for this. I'll post more after work when the "official" report has been read!
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OK, so the district itself is ranked "Continuous Improvement", which is really good, at least we're not going backwards! But I went to ODE's website and looked at the report cards for most of the schools in the district. I read there, and also heard here on the local news that we have several schools that are in "Academic Emergency", one of which is one of my childrens schools. To protect my children I am not going to name the specific school, but I will say that this comes at no surprise to me what so ever!
In the many dealings that I had with said school last year it became more and more apparent that this school wants nothing to do with a child that may need a little extra help. It actually took me better than half of the school year, and the threat of involving my lawyer, to get a meeting with the SAT team to try and help my child. There are many teachers that I came in contact with last year that were helpful with my child, but there were others, as well as those in charge of the school, who wanted nothing more than to simply tell me what I wanted to hear at the moment then not follow through with it when I was not present. They would then turn around and take their frustrations with me as an involved parent out on my child. I feel that the principal, vice pricipal and dean of said school are very prejudice against children that struggle, whether it be educationall, emotionally or financially. A childs race does not play a factor in their prejudice because I seen it towards students of every race. It just felt as if they simply did not want to deal with a child that was anything less that perfect and would simply call the parents and send a child home, which would cause even more problems for these kids.
I was very disappointed to see that the same principal, vice principal and dean are in this school this year as I had hopes that they would bring in some fresh faces to try and help this school out, but that does not seem to be something that is going to happen. I must admit that I really dread the thought of this child going back to this school, but I will put my best foot forward and have told my child that I expect the same from them so that we don't have a repeat of last year. My only hope is that my child is allowed to start with a clean slate and not have last year thrown back at them.
So, what are your thoughts about TPS's report card and your childs schools own report card? If you haven't seen them yet, you can find them at this linkDistrict Local Report Cards Just go to the district box and scroll down to Toledo, or you can scroll down to Lucas in the county box. Check it out if you haven't already, then tell me your thoughts!
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OK, so the district itself is ranked "Continuous Improvement", which is really good, at least we're not going backwards! But I went to ODE's website and looked at the report cards for most of the schools in the district. I read there, and also heard here on the local news that we have several schools that are in "Academic Emergency", one of which is one of my childrens schools. To protect my children I am not going to name the specific school, but I will say that this comes at no surprise to me what so ever!
In the many dealings that I had with said school last year it became more and more apparent that this school wants nothing to do with a child that may need a little extra help. It actually took me better than half of the school year, and the threat of involving my lawyer, to get a meeting with the SAT team to try and help my child. There are many teachers that I came in contact with last year that were helpful with my child, but there were others, as well as those in charge of the school, who wanted nothing more than to simply tell me what I wanted to hear at the moment then not follow through with it when I was not present. They would then turn around and take their frustrations with me as an involved parent out on my child. I feel that the principal, vice pricipal and dean of said school are very prejudice against children that struggle, whether it be educationall, emotionally or financially. A childs race does not play a factor in their prejudice because I seen it towards students of every race. It just felt as if they simply did not want to deal with a child that was anything less that perfect and would simply call the parents and send a child home, which would cause even more problems for these kids.
I was very disappointed to see that the same principal, vice principal and dean are in this school this year as I had hopes that they would bring in some fresh faces to try and help this school out, but that does not seem to be something that is going to happen. I must admit that I really dread the thought of this child going back to this school, but I will put my best foot forward and have told my child that I expect the same from them so that we don't have a repeat of last year. My only hope is that my child is allowed to start with a clean slate and not have last year thrown back at them.
So, what are your thoughts about TPS's report card and your childs schools own report card? If you haven't seen them yet, you can find them at this link
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Tuesday, August 08, 2006
Uniforms again
I'm sitting here watching 13 ABC news and I see that TPS has put the lovely uniforms into the High Schools now. Why does this not amaze me? Who in the world do they think they are kidding? I know that there are many people out there that think these uniforms are a good thing, but I'm sorry, I personally do not! I feel that they are an invasion on childrens choices. I think that a child uses how they dress to express how they are and that it is wrong to take this away from them in a public school setting.
Look at Springfield School district. They tried this uniform code in the late 90's and it didn't last one full school year, and there were many parents in favor of it there, but they knew it was wrong. How long will it take for TPS to realize it is wrong?.
Yes, I do agree that there are way too many kids that push a normal dress code to the max, but that falls back on the child AND their parents. Too many parents let their kids walk out that door in the morning knowing that they are wearing something they simply shouldn't be wearing, but rather than argue with them, or have their kid be the "uncool" kid, they just ignore it. Just like the males who wear their pants with their underwear sticking out, and the girls who wear their jeans with their thongs sticking out, it's gross and it's WRONG, but it's not up to the school to deal with it, it is up to the parent. And as I said, too many parents don't want the argument, so they say nothing.
Am I a perfect parent, NO WAY! I make mistakes, but I also take the time to make my children accountable for what they do and who they are. I do not take the blame for my child, I make them take the blame and pay the price for what they do, it's what you have to do to help teach a child to be responsible. Too many kids these days simply are not held accountable for their actions, the parents try to argue it when they know what their child did was wrong.
As a parent I am putting out a challenge to anyone and everyone (INCLUDING myself) to stand up for what is right and have that argument with your child because you know what they want to do isn't right, but they want to do it just to be "cool". Step in and show them that although it's something they want to do, it's not the best choice and help them understand what the best choice is. Do this just once, and I think that we'll all see the argumentive situations decrease just a little. Stop ifnoring and start changing. I'm sure it won't be easy, especially for me, but I'm going to try, no matter how minor it is. Please, if you do this, let me know how it went, and I will do the same!
Look at Springfield School district. They tried this uniform code in the late 90's and it didn't last one full school year, and there were many parents in favor of it there, but they knew it was wrong. How long will it take for TPS to realize it is wrong?.
Yes, I do agree that there are way too many kids that push a normal dress code to the max, but that falls back on the child AND their parents. Too many parents let their kids walk out that door in the morning knowing that they are wearing something they simply shouldn't be wearing, but rather than argue with them, or have their kid be the "uncool" kid, they just ignore it. Just like the males who wear their pants with their underwear sticking out, and the girls who wear their jeans with their thongs sticking out, it's gross and it's WRONG, but it's not up to the school to deal with it, it is up to the parent. And as I said, too many parents don't want the argument, so they say nothing.
Am I a perfect parent, NO WAY! I make mistakes, but I also take the time to make my children accountable for what they do and who they are. I do not take the blame for my child, I make them take the blame and pay the price for what they do, it's what you have to do to help teach a child to be responsible. Too many kids these days simply are not held accountable for their actions, the parents try to argue it when they know what their child did was wrong.
As a parent I am putting out a challenge to anyone and everyone (INCLUDING myself) to stand up for what is right and have that argument with your child because you know what they want to do isn't right, but they want to do it just to be "cool". Step in and show them that although it's something they want to do, it's not the best choice and help them understand what the best choice is. Do this just once, and I think that we'll all see the argumentive situations decrease just a little. Stop ifnoring and start changing. I'm sure it won't be easy, especially for me, but I'm going to try, no matter how minor it is. Please, if you do this, let me know how it went, and I will do the same!
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